College students have their own culture and language. You may know your college friends better than their own parents do. And you may be able to tell that something is wrong with one of your classmates when the professors and faculty advisors can't. You can use your insights to help your friends and classmates find help when they are having problems. While there is no foolproof method of determining that someone is thinking of hurting himself/herself, the following signs might indicate that a young person is considering suicide:
A suddenly worsening school performance. Good students who suddenly start ignoring assignments and cutting classes may have problems-including depression or drug and alcohol abuse-that can affect their health and happiness and put them at risk of suicide.
A fixation with death or violence. Young adults with problems may develop an unusual interest in death or violence, expressed through poetry, essays, doodling, or artwork; an obsession with violent movies, video games, and music; or a fascination with weapons. Older adults often cannot tell a "normal" interest in violent video games or music from an obsession, whereas peers know what is more typical for this age group.
Unhealthy peer relationships. Students who don't have friends, or suddenly reject their friends, may be at risk. A friend who suddenly rejects you, claiming, "You just don't understand me any more," may be having emotional problems.
Violent mood swings or a sudden change in personality. Peers who become sullen, silent, and withdrawn, or angry and acting out, may have problems that can lead to suicide.
Indications that the student is in an abusive relationship. Some young people may be physically or emotionally abused by a member of their family or their girlfriend or boyfriend. Signs that a person may be in an abusive relationship include unexplained bruises or other injuries that he or she refuses to discuss.
Signs of an eating disorder. An eating disorder is an obvious sign that someone needs help. A dramatic change in weight that is not the result of a medically supervised diet may also indicate that something is wrong.
Difficulty in adjusting to gender identity. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered young people have higher suicide attempt rates than their heterosexual peers. These youth may be faced with social pressures that make life very difficult.
Depression. Depression is an emotional problem that increases a person's risk of suicide. The following signs indicate that someone may be depressed:
A sudden worsening in school performance
Withdrawal from friends and extracurricular activities
Expressions of sadness and hopelessness, or anger and rage
A sudden, unexplained decline in enthusiasm and energy
Overreaction to criticism
Lowered self-esteem, or feelings of guilt
Indecision, lack of concentration, and forgetfulness
Restlessness and agitation
Changes in eating or sleeping patterns
Unprovoked episodes of crying
Sudden neglect of appearance and hygiene
Seeming to feel tired all the time, for no apparent reason
An increase in the use of alcohol or other drugs
Some warning signs of suicide demand immediate action:
Announcing that the person has made a plan to kill him- or herself
Talking or writing about suicide or death
Saying things like:
I wish I were dead.
I'm going to end it all.
You will be better off without me.
What's the point of living?
Soon you won't have to worry about me.
Who cares if I'm dead, anyway?
Staying by themselves rather than hanging out with friends
Expressing feelings that life is meaningless
Giving away prized possessions
Neglecting their appearance and hygiene
Obtaining a weapon or other things that they could use to hurt themselves (such as prescription medications)
Again, there is no foolproof way of knowing for sure that a teen is thinking of hurting himself/herself. But even if the person isn't thinking of suicide, these warning signs can mean that he or she other serious problems. By taking action, you can help that person become happier and healthier.
The Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC) ©2019
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