October 1, 2019

“To err is human.”  All human beings are imperfect.  We all have flaws and we all make mistakes.  No human being is exempt from this universal reality.  Because imperfection is part of our DNA, we may think that imperfection is an easy part of ourselves to accept.  However, in our western culture, imperfection is often viewed personally as unacceptable.  A common reaction we have for dealing with our mistakes consists of berat...

July 1, 2019

Life can get stressful, anxiety can consume, and depression can overwhelm. Worries and stress can take over no matter if you’re at home, work, or even spending time with love ones and family. Wouldn’t it be nice to have some coping skills you can pull out of your toolbox no matter wherever you are? I’m going to share with you five coping skills that I have found to be very effective for my clients and myself.  

One tool you can...

In addressing the purpose of life, Sigmund Freud famously said "Work and love, love and work - that's all there is."  So given this imperative, as adults it is important to like what we do for a living.  Well okay, not ALL the time, but as much as possible, we should enjoy our jobs.  While there may be glitches, bumps, and difficulties from time to time in fulfilling our responsibilities, for the most part this is the goal.  W...

May 1, 2019

Generations of Harvard University researchers tracked the physical and emotional well being of hundreds of men from 1938 to 2014. The researchers surveyed, interviewed, sampled blood and took brain scans of these men repeatedly over the 75 years of the study. (Click here for the link to the original study.)

Conclusion: one factor far and away was most important in keeping these men happier and healthier over their lifetimes: go...

March 1, 2019

I have many clients who come to me because of a "relationship problem". They say they need help communicating better. But oftentimes, it means is that they are having difficulties with negotiations.

An ability to negotiate is essential in a marriage but rarely do we get any instruction in how to do that. Typically, when we disagree all our energy goes in to trying to convince the other person of the rightness of our position an...

More than 90% of human behavior is reactionary.

Every day, people are faced with lots of things that require them to think, feel or act. In fact, all human behavior generally falls into two categories. We can either respond or react and although at first glance these two may seem quite similar, there is a great deal of difference between them. The road we take can have very different outcomes.

Responding is a state of mind which...